Vixens: Get Inspired with ALEX ELLE

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” -Gandhi

-What’s your name and where are you from? 
My name is Alexandra Elle and I’m from Maryland!

-  How has being natural affected your life? How do you feel about this natural hair “movement”? 

Being natural has made life a bit easier. It’s also helped me become more self-aware over the years. I love the movement, I hope it never stops!

-  How long did you transition for? Any tips you want to give to readers, tips you wish you would have known when you were transitioning.
I only transitioned for 6 months. The two textures drove me CRAZY! Now that I look back on it I wish I would’ve transitioned longer. I didn’t know of many YouTube transitioners when I first went natural. My main tip would have to be USE YOUTUBE! The natural hair community on there is amazing!

-  Do you have staple hair products? If so what are they? 
Yes, I love Oyin Handmade’s line (everything they offer my hair loves), Ade Vegan Hair, Aloe Vera Gel (Trader Joes), Flaxseed Gel (homemade) and my hair butter that I whip up when I don’t feel like spending money.

-  Hard as it may seem how would you describe your hair and the regime you use to maintain it? 
My hair is bossy, big and bushy. She’s (yes, it’s a her) soft, fluffy and coily with a mind of her own. My regimen is kind of non-existent most of the year with the exception of the winter time. When I first went natural, I stuck to a regi but as I learned my hair, I also grasped that less is more. My hair is fragile and prefers little to no manipulation. My winter regimen can be found on my blog,  HERE

-  What IS fashion to you or FOR you?
Fashion for me is comfort. I am a boyfriend jeans and white V-neck type of girl. Heels are barely worn on these feet, I love ballet flats and cute sandals.

-  “Big Tings A Gwan” are definitely in the works for you. I have not had the pleasure of reading“Words from a Wanderer” yet but I have been able to catch glimpses of the great words of encouragement and poems from you. How did “Words from a Wanderer” come into fruition?
Thank you! To be honest, I wasn’t going to write a book. The people have been wanting one for a year or so now. I decided to not hoard my words and share them. I was nervous at first because my thoughts are all I have in a sense. I am glad I took the plunge. Three months after releasing the book almost one-thousand copies have sold! Super exciting!

-  I’m a single mother, and although all children are blessings, motherhood is a tough role to navigate. What are some of the challenges and blessings of being a mother?
I can’t say that I feel like being a single mother is a challenge. My daughter literally saved my life so when I start to have thoughts of doubt when it comes to parenting, I remind myself where I came from. The blessing is having a little person to teach, mold and raise with the intention of showing them individuality and love in its purest form.

-   Children demand attention and attention they do get. How do you find time to take care of you and do the things you love to do while being a mother?
Balance is key! I have a great support system and I try to include my daughter in “what momma is doing” even when she isn’t there. I also have a mother who will check me if I am spreading myself too thin. Motherhood comes first, everything else is second.

-  Without getting too personal, what words would you use to describe dating and motherhood?
Again, balance. My daughter is sacred, men don’t meet her. No one meets my family, come to think of it. When I was actively dating nothing lasted. I honestly feel like you have to be worth it and permanent to meet my family, especially my child. I have been blessed to find a partner, who will eventually meet my daughter and family but that will come in time. There’s no rush, that’s a big and beautiful step for me (us).

-  Sometimes when we get into a relationship we can lose our sense of “self”.  Some advice on how to maintain your identity while in a relationship?
Your partner should complement you, not complete you. Be whole when you meet a mate, that’s my advice.

Where do you draw inspiration from? Not only for fashion, but your art, music, poetry, ….life?
It really depends on my mood. Inspiration comes from everywhere and every experience that I encounter.

-  Sexuality is celebrated here on The Vixen Box through “The Clitoris Taboo” series on the blog, meaning women’s sexuality is a “taboo” subject. What IS sexuality?
Sexuality, to me, is being confident in who you are. Women are beautiful, we hold the power.

Music is such a great medium? What and who are you listening to now? 
I’m listening to a mix of things. Lots of J.Cole. I love Yuna, Gregory Porter and James Blake… J.Cole is in rotation heavy though. When I fall in love with an artist, they are around for a while in my headphones.

-  Although I only have one tattoo (for now) I am a tattoo aficionado. Your tattoos are literally works of art. What is your favorite or more spiritual tattoo?
Ohhh, I love them all! I cannot pick a favorite. <3

-  Here at The Vixen Box, health and fitness is major. I know for me I am working on getting myself right physically and emotionally by eating clean and incorporating exercise into my life. What do you do as far as health and fitness to stay or reach a level of good health? 
I eat clean. I’m a vegetarian who is slowly transitioning to vegan. Yoga is a part of my life, so is meditation and running.

-  Do you meditate? If so, do you mind sharing how often and what the benefits have been for you?
I do and I love it. I meditate often by getting still and being quiet. I try to make it a daily practice.  Peace is the greatest benefit.

- Describe your blog and how readers can get in touch with you.
I have a few blogs all of which cater to different things. (natural hair) (personal tumblr) (random writings and food posts)

-  What makes you a Vixen:   (Here at The Vixen Box  a Vixen is someone who loves, accepts everything and everyone for who they are. They spread love, share love, and give love. Conquering the world one day at a time, while keeping it funky and edgy.) 
My capability to communicate love makes me a vixen.

-  Favorite Quote: “Be the change you want to see in the world.” -Gandhi

-  We think individuality is celebrated here…. but in sometimes in others reality it is not true. What words of encouragement would you give someone who is having a hard time not being part of the status quo and is unapologetically unique?

Be you, no questions asked. 

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